Intentions – How to Ask For What You Really Want

How many of us have ever asked the universe for something we wanted and received a result that wasn’t exactly what we intended?  The wording of our intentions and the verbalizing of our desires must be very specific!  Take a look at these examples:

Ken wants to be completely free of debt, so he states the following intention:  “I want to pay off all my debt.”  All of the sudden, Ken begins receiving phone calls and notices that are demanding payment in full on loans he had been paying in installments.Susan_Karim

Karen desires to meet the man of her dreams, so she states the following intention:  “I want to meet a man who is charming, loyal, dedicated, loving, and handsome.”  Karen meets “Mr. Perfect”, but finds out he’s already married.  Then Karen meets the real “Mr. Right”.  He’s single and possess all of  the qualities she desires but, unfortunately, he’s completely immersed in his job and has no time for a social life.

George desperately wants to lose weight, so he states the following intention:  “I want to lose weight fast!”  Within a few weeks, George comes down with the flu.  He loses 10 pounds in one week, but he also lost time at work, missed the wedding of his best friend, and now his children have all gotten sick too.

Sarah really wants to buy a new car even though her current car is in great shape.   Sarah sends that intention out into the universe.  Within a few days, Sarah’s car breaks down and the repair shop says it will cost her more than the value of the car to get it fixed.  Suddenly, she has no choice but to buy a new car!

I’m certain that each of us has had these kinds of situations happen to us more times than we care to count.  Therefore, it is important that we carefully describe our wants and desires and specifically state our intentions.  These simple actions dramatically increase our chances of receiving exactly what we want.

First, be clear about what it is we DON’T want.  That may sound elementary, but very often we don’t (or won’t) take the time to clarify this part.  We are so focused on what it is that we want that we bypass this step and end up attracting the things we don’t want by default.  A good way to know exactly what it is we don’t want is to look at the circumstances of our life right at this moment.  What situations are giving us stress, grief, pain, or frustration?  After evaluating our circumstances, we need to list all of the things we don’t want, so we can clarify exactly what it is that we DO want.

Now comes the fun part – focusing on what it is that we DO want.  Once we comprehend what we don’t want, we need to do some soul searching as to what we do want.  It usually turns out that our “do wants” are the exact opposite of our “don’t wants.”  If we don’t want financial lack, we do want financial abundance.  If we don’t want tension in our relationships, we do want harmonious interactions with others.  Look at everything on the “don’t want” list, change around the wording, and write the opposite outcome as a list of “do wants.”

Far more important than making a list of “do wants” is understanding the real desire behind the items on our list.   Perhaps we say we want “a lot of money,” but why?  Money all by itself does nothing for us.  If we look a little deeper, we may discover that we want a lot of money so we can have financial freedom, indulge in long awaited travel, and treat ourselves to some of the luxuries we would love to have in our lives.  Rather than focusing solely  on the acquisition of money, we should instead focus on inviting the DESIRED OUTCOMES into our lives.  We don’t need to remove money as a desired outcome, but seeing it as the end-all, be-all of our desires is incredibly limiting.  By broadening our scope of vision, our intentions have a greater chance of becoming a reality.

Successful intentions rely on our being specific in our requests.  Here’s where we have the opportunity to exercise our creativity!  In order to be specific in wording our intentions, we first need to know what we don’t want, and what we do want, and the desired outcome we are trying to create.  The steps above took us through those excercises, but how do we word our intentions so they attract exactly what we want?

Look at the difference between these two intentions:

1.  I want a lot of money so I don’t have to work at a job I hate.

2.  I want to do work that fills me with passion, joy, and a sense of accomplishment and attracts massive amounts of money into my life.  This will give me the freedom to work when I want to and not work when I don’t want to.

Notice the difference?  It’s all in the details.  With every single intention, we have to specify a “how” and a “why.”  It’s certainly okay to occasionally add in a “when”, but we have to remember that the universe has its own timing that may or may not align with our idea of when things should happen.

Above all, we need to acknowledge the blessings that come to us in disguise.  Sometimes, no matter how specific we are with our words, our desires will manifest themselves in a way that we didn’t particularly want or even expect.  There are a plethora of reasons for this to happen, but the reasons don’t really matter.  The important thing is to see all of these experiences as opportunities.  Instead of sinking into frustration and despair when our intentions aren’t being fulfilled in the way we expect, we need to honor the process for what it is and affirm with our entire being that everything will work out in the very best way possible.

More often than not, that’s exactly what will happen!

Susan Karim

Time Management and Personal Effectiveness Coach

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